When you are single people will ask you about your GF / BF.....and when you get engaged they will jump on the "Wedding Date" queries. Finally, once you get married no matter of your age, the first blessing you will get is, to become 3 from 2 and that too ASAP (as soon as possible).
The married life begins with all the understanding and adjustments. Likes and dislikes of your partner, the romance , the fights and the RELATIVES.
But don't forget the big question that will haunt you continuously.... "WHEN ARE YOU HAVING A BABY?".......When you have one, they will flush you with the thoughts and questions about the 2nd. And then their marriage and kids and blah blah...Cycle goes on and on and on.
Whattttt !!! Are you serious.?..Yes !!! absolutely....ask every other couple, they will agree on this.
I would really like to say, Hats off to this unending drama of Indian Society (not sure about the other parts of the world) and to those people who survive this and later become a part of it.
This is not my frustration but a big question that why can't the couple solely decide on when they want to start their families. Its not that they are forced on a gun point but many of them are under that pressure of deadlines and questions that make them compromise just for the sake of society.
I belong to a community where 80% girls get married even before they are 21. Hardly they have completed their Bachelors in Home Science .... yes because that is the highest they are allowed to study, to groom themselves to become good wives.And the guy that she will get married to is hardly 2 to 3 years elder to her.
After Marriage, there comes a lavish honeymoon and guess what they celebrate their 1st Wedding Anniversary with their 1st kiddo and the 3rd with their 2nd kiddo....uffff..
Have the society who continuously haunt them have thought that, are they really mature enough to handle that or they really want it that way???
And here we are the bunch of 20% who got married at the age of 23 to 25. Celebrated their 4th Anniversary an DON'T have a kid. OMG ... how can this be.
And I am sure couples like us are branded as not being able to bear a child due to some XYZ medical issue.
Now, instead of questions, we get sympathy and instead of blessing we get suggestions on good doctors and treatments.
And here we are laughing and stunted at the same time on this drama. Because we are tired explaining them that we are busy in our careers and paying of our major chunk of EMIs so that when we started are family we should be able to give are kid a luxurious life.
But who is gonna believe us??? ....yes ....NOBODY
The thought here is not against on having a baby too early. The thought is to protest on no matter what let the couple only decide that when they wana have their baby. May be they want it on their 1st Anniversary or wana party hard for the first 3 years of their marriage and they think about it. It should be their choice.
Today, people are enough mature and aware about all the issues like biological clock, compatibility issue, etc etc. They do't need the society to tell them that.
At the end of the day they are the one to welcome and to be solely responsible to look after that new family member in this world. :). And it should be done without any regrets and unfulfilled dreams.
Wish you all a Happy Family.
The married life begins with all the understanding and adjustments. Likes and dislikes of your partner, the romance , the fights and the RELATIVES.
But don't forget the big question that will haunt you continuously.... "WHEN ARE YOU HAVING A BABY?".......When you have one, they will flush you with the thoughts and questions about the 2nd. And then their marriage and kids and blah blah...Cycle goes on and on and on.
Whattttt !!! Are you serious.?..Yes !!! absolutely....ask every other couple, they will agree on this.
I would really like to say, Hats off to this unending drama of Indian Society (not sure about the other parts of the world) and to those people who survive this and later become a part of it.
This is not my frustration but a big question that why can't the couple solely decide on when they want to start their families. Its not that they are forced on a gun point but many of them are under that pressure of deadlines and questions that make them compromise just for the sake of society.
I belong to a community where 80% girls get married even before they are 21. Hardly they have completed their Bachelors in Home Science .... yes because that is the highest they are allowed to study, to groom themselves to become good wives.And the guy that she will get married to is hardly 2 to 3 years elder to her.
After Marriage, there comes a lavish honeymoon and guess what they celebrate their 1st Wedding Anniversary with their 1st kiddo and the 3rd with their 2nd kiddo....uffff..
Have the society who continuously haunt them have thought that, are they really mature enough to handle that or they really want it that way???
And here we are the bunch of 20% who got married at the age of 23 to 25. Celebrated their 4th Anniversary an DON'T have a kid. OMG ... how can this be.
And I am sure couples like us are branded as not being able to bear a child due to some XYZ medical issue.
Now, instead of questions, we get sympathy and instead of blessing we get suggestions on good doctors and treatments.
And here we are laughing and stunted at the same time on this drama. Because we are tired explaining them that we are busy in our careers and paying of our major chunk of EMIs so that when we started are family we should be able to give are kid a luxurious life.
But who is gonna believe us??? ....yes ....NOBODY
The thought here is not against on having a baby too early. The thought is to protest on no matter what let the couple only decide that when they wana have their baby. May be they want it on their 1st Anniversary or wana party hard for the first 3 years of their marriage and they think about it. It should be their choice.
Today, people are enough mature and aware about all the issues like biological clock, compatibility issue, etc etc. They do't need the society to tell them that.
At the end of the day they are the one to welcome and to be solely responsible to look after that new family member in this world. :). And it should be done without any regrets and unfulfilled dreams.
Wish you all a Happy Family.
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